Relationship
Best relationship topics to talk about – final
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Self-improvements in bed.
Let’s not call them problems. Call them self-improvements and relationship improvements if you must. Never push problems in the bedroom under the carpet. At some point, they’ll always come back to haunt both of you. If you aren’t able to perform or don’t feel like having sex all of a sudden, talk about it so both of you can overcome any issues together.
Sex talk.
For a relationship to be successful, sexual intimacy is as important as romantic gestures. Talk about your sexually sensitive spots and erogenous zones, positions you like or want to try, your secret sexual fantasies and whatever it is that turns you on in bed. It’ll be exciting and revealing at the same time.
Do you feel like there are some areas you both could do things differently? Are there any new things you’d like to try in real life? Any secret fantasies, perhaps? This is one of those relationship topics that’ll not only get both of you to open up, but also go a long way in making your sex life better.
Well-being and wellness.
While health issues may not be easy to talk about, it’s still a great way to get to know each other and enhance each other’s lives. Are there any ways you could improve your life and make it better? Is there something healthy the two of you could try incorporating into your lifestyle as a couple?
Advice.
Communication isn’t always about getting to know more about each other. Every now and then, offer advice and share your suggestions on what your lover could do to improve their life or their work.
What’s your story?
Relationship topics about the past are always exciting and fun to talk about. You don’t need to talk about past relationships or your sexual details if that make you feel uncomfortable. Your partner would want to know about your past though, so if you’re okay with going into details, play it safe and talk about it. But either ways, talk about your childhood, your young dreams and all the little things that make you who you are.
The future.
What do you want to do with your life? This topic can make for intellectual conversations that can help you get to know your partner’s view about life and the pursuits that matter to them.
Preferences.
Sometimes, it’s the little things that can give both of you hours of fun conversations. Talk about each other’s likes and dislikes. After all, preferences always change with time, and the more you know about your partner’s present preference, the better you’d know them.
What can we do together?
Plan shared goals together. It could be about painting a wall, running a marathon the next year or just about anything else. When you plan things or try something new together, it brings both of you closer.
Personal opinions.
If you truly love each other, don’t hold your thoughts back if you want to share what’s on your mind with your lover. It doesn’t matter if it’s a suggestion or a warning, if you feel it, say it. Your partner will feel good to know that you’re always looking out for them no matter what. It always feels good, doesn’t it, when you know that you have a special someone who cares so much about you?
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What you should expect to learn in pre-marital counselling
- Pre-marital counselling involves couples coming together for joint therapy sessions
Many times, pre-marital counselling involves couples or partners coming together for joint therapy sessions. Working with a qualified marriage counsellor or therapist, you will learn skills to help improve your relationship as a couple.
At the same time, it is not all pre-marital counselling that leads to marriage. It is possible that certain discoveries (and major red flags) could emerge during the counselling sessions, and for that reason one of you may want to discontinue the marriage process so as to avoid any future regrets.
From my experience and professional practice, I would say that no matter how painful it is to break up a relationship prior to marriage; it is still far better to do that than to break up your marriage relationship.
The marriage breakup has more serious implications than any pain that could emerge from relationship break up.
In some instances, the specific topics to be explored and skills to be developed in your pre-marital counselling sessions will depend on your needs as a couple.
Despite this, I would give you all the topics and skills to expect your counsellor to take you through in order to have a happy and lasting relationship.
Even if you are not considering pre-marital counselling at the moment, you can still benefit from these skills and topics. They are also an excellent way to create depth in your conversations and build a solid healthy foundation in the early stages of your relationship.
Not in any specific order, I would like you to take note of these important skills and lessons you will learn in your sessions: 1 understanding the concept of marriage, 2 building a strong foundation for your marriage, 3 examining your expectations leading to your marriage, 4 undergoing medical tests and sometimes mental health assessment, 5 resolving conflicts together, 6 communicating openly and effectively, 7 taking decisions as a couple, 8. building a strong Christian home (if you’re Christians), 9 building transparency and trust, 10 knowing yourselves: your strengths and weaknesses—and how to improve them, 11 building commitment towards the marriage and each other, 12 accepting your unique roles and responsibilities in your marriage, 13 planning your future together, 14 sexual intimacy in marriage, 15 bearing and raising children, 16 understanding the concept of love, 17 the role of love languages in experiencing marital happiness, 18 managing your home finances, 19 defining your beliefs and values, 20 adjustments in marriage, 21 balancing love, work, and family life, 22 relating with your in-laws and third parties, 23 creating your unique marriage and family rituals, 24 engaging married couples to learn from them, 25 understanding divorce and what causes it, 26 Christian view on divorce, 27 preparing for your marriage ceremony, 28 planning for your honeymoon and how to maximise it, and finally, 29 making your first year of marriage count.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from ‘Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage’ Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Psychotherapist and Marriage Therapist). https://counselorprinceass.wixsite.com/edu-counseling-psych
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Tips for creating healthy working relationships
We spend around a third of our lives at work. Our jobs and careers make a real impact on our overall levels of happiness. Having good work relationships will always make our jobs more enjoyable
Also, when we have great workplace relationships we will demonstrate cooperation, trust and fairness, activating the reward centre of our brains which encourages even more positive interactions.
Here are some tips to create healthy relationships at the workplace.
1. Focus on self-awareness
This means taking full responsibility for your words and actions, not letting your own negative emotions impact the people around us.
If you feel frustration or resentment towards others this will manifest in what you observe and the way you engage.
By developing your own Emotional Intelligence, you will become more adept at identifying and handling your emotions be able to recognise the needs of others.
Again, if you view colleagues with compassion and respect, you will improve your interactions and build strong working relationships.
What would happen if you stopped making judgments and embraced a positive appraisal of your co-workers? If we saw difference as something valuable that could be harnessed and actually enhance your perception and understanding of those around you? Your vibe will always attract your tribe.
2. Be open and honest
A good relationships depend on open, honest communication. Whether you are sending emails or meeting face-to-face or on video calls, the more effectively you communicate with those around you, the better you will connect. It is important to identify the nature of your relationships with others.
What is it that we need and what do our colleagues need from us? Once you know the fundamentals of what you need you can be clear with communicating and better understanding each other’s requirements.
3. Practice active listening
Good people skills are essential. How good are you at collaborating, communicating and managing challenge? People respond better to those who truly listen to what they have to say. By practicing active listening, you will talk less and understand colleagues more and you will quickly become trustworthy and have more successful interactions.
One key skill you can forget when listening is the power of a good question. Active listening is engaging in what you hear, asking questions such as ‘What would you like to happen?’ How can I help you address that? Shows you listen and you care.
4. Avoid bad people skills
Good people skills mean avoiding the bad people skills. Gossip and negativity can ruin any workplace relationships. If you are experiencing challenge with someone in your group, talk to them directly and kindly about the problem, be prepared to listen attentively and objectively.
Gossiping or colluding with other colleagues will only aggravate the issues, accelerating mistrust and animosity.
5. Give praise and feedback
Everyone wants to feel that their work is appreciated and to feel truly valued. Genuinely complimenting the work and actions of those around you is a great way to build relationships.
Be honest, precise and authentic when delivering praise. Thank you or a gentle word of encouragement can make all the difference to someone’s day. These positive interactions can have a ripple effect and create a much happier and more successful workplace
