Obaa Yaa
He is chasing my girl
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been lovers for a little over one year and l have realised that a friend of mine is chasing my girl. However, when l asked her about it, she denied it and said my information was inaccurate. I love her and cannot leave her.
Though l am troubled in my heart, l have not yet asked the boy any question. What step should l take?
Kofi Oppong, Accra
Dear Kofi,
Issues pertaining to relationships are fraught with challenges which vary from one individual to the other. It, therefore, takes diplomacy, tactfulness, and clear-headedness to overcome certain challenges in life.
You are fortunate to discover within one year that there is someone chasing your girl friend.
Though, by instinct you must be disturbed, you should rather try to find out whether your girl friend has another lover apart from you.
Secondly, you must try to establish whether the two of them had been in a relationship more than one year, which should suggest that they are old lovers. Additionally, to avert serious confrontation, there is no need to ask the gentleman any question.
If it is true, then you must be considered the person interfering in their friendship not the gentleman as you think. The earlier you quit this relationship, the better it will be for you.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
