Is my girlfriend real?

Dear Obaa Yaa

I am 30 years of age, dating a girl of 26 years for two years now. She is a banker and I am a pharmacist.

Our relationship used to be a long distance one because of the nature of our jobs till I came back home to settle.

I went through her phone the first time to see how she was managing her life while I was away. Surprisingly, I didn’t see a single chat history on her phone with any other friend except me.

I checked for the second time and the third time and saw nothing of that sort.

Is it normal for a girl not to chat with anybody except her boyfriend?

James, Gbawe

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Dear James,

From my perspective, your girlfriend should be s a commended for her faithfulness to you.

I would strongly advise you to cherish your relationship with her.

Instead of harbouring doubts about this, you should rather praise her because it is not easy to find genuine good and kind-hearted person like her. They are very rare species.

Holding on to a relationship with such a ‘good girl’ is an opportunity to rather appreciate rather than having thoughts you can hardly find evidence to substantiate.

What subjects should I choose?

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.

With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.

What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.

I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.

A.J, Accra.

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Dear A.J

If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.

That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.

The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.

Obaa Yaa

I’m having second thoughts

Dear Obaa Yaa,

My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.

But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.

For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.

At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.

Which one do you think is his true character?

It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.

A.B, Sewhi

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Dear A.B

I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.

If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.

If he cares for you, he will do something about it.

But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places