She doesn’t respect her mother

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I visited my girlfriend at home, and I was a witness to a hot exchange between her and the mother.

In fact, my girl used such words on the mother that I was compelled to hit her to keep her quiet. She later told me that her mother made her to behave like that.

The surprising thing is that she seemed to be such a respectful person, and was always very polite to my mother and even help her in the kitchen when she visits me.

I have told her in plain language that our relationship is off, but she keeps begging and she has even promised not to quarrel with her mother again.

But I can’t forget the scene I saw and the fact is that, it was not the first time.

Do you think she can change?

I love her, but I want my children to have a respectful mother.

Agbesi, keta.

Dear Agbesi,

LET me say this to you, you took the right decision in ending the relationship because she might not change. However, that is for her to work it out, so don’t let it be your problem.

Even the Bible in Exodus 20:12 has a lot to say against children who are disrespectful to their parents.

You are lucky you found out in time the sort of person she is.

Pastors take too much money from members

Dear Obaa Yaa,

A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.

Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?

Etornam,

Volta Region.

Dear Etornam,

It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.

Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.

Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.

But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.

I can’t make a choice

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 40-year old banker and doing so well financially. I have a side business and I own two houses at Adenta. I have two girls in my life and I value each one for who they are. I want to settle down this year but I’m finding it difficult to make a choice.

One is financially stable, hardworking but disrespectful. The other is jobless, obedient and dull.

I love both of them and I am finding it difficult to choose. Should I marry one and keep one as a friend or I should leave them all.

They are all very beautiful. I am confused.

Kwansima,

Elmina.

Dear

I don’t believe that you are serious about marriage. I strongly believe you don’t love both of them, because you will never have a second thought when you love someone.

Also, I don’t believe that the girls are as daft as you want to portray.

For instance, what makes you think they are yours to pick and choose what roles they should play?

You are old enough to know what you want and what will be best for you. In as much as the ladies are pretty, each of them have different qualities you also want.

If I were you, I would propose and find out which of the girls would have you.