Obaa Yaa
She has broken my heart
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met this beautiful lady in 2021 at a crusade in Accra. Coincidentally, we stayed at the same place during the crusade as we listened to the word of God, prayed, and danced to gospel tunes from different artistes.
Having stayed at the same place throughout the night, it became obvious when l requested for her contact before we finally parted company at dawn to our respective homes.
I called her in the evening and that opened the floodgates of constant interactions between us. We sustained this lovely relationship until we agreed to get married.
This decision was welcomed by our parents and friends, all of whom wished us the best in our proposed marriage.
Unfortunately, as the time for our marriage drew closer, her attitude toward me changed and she made up her mind not to pick my calls any longer.
Shocked by this sudden change in her behaviour, l momentarily became disturbed and could not eat for days.
My mother who realised there was something wrong, consoled me with these words, “when one door is closed, another is opened.”
This revived my spirit and l tried to forget about this sad incident.
What should l do?
Thomas- Koforidua.
Dear Thomas,
Every misfortune comes with blessings provided one is patient to listen and follow events that happen in life.
God could be delivering you from a serious problem in the future so you should not be disturbed by the sudden change of events.
Take your time to study situations carefully and be of good cheer since there are better days ahead, provided you wait for God’s direction.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
