Obaa Yaa
She is pregnant
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A few weeks ago, I reached out to Obaa Yaa, and she promptly addressed my concern, for which I am grateful.
Since then, I have entered into a relationship, but my extended period of singlehood led to a lack of control during intimate moments, resulting in the unintended pregnancy of my partner.
As a young man without employment, I am unsure how to provide for both the mother and the unborn child. I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused; can you offer any guidance?
Kelvin Boakye,
Osu
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Dear Kelvin,
I AM grateful you took the advice I gave you concerning your issue a few weeks ago and I must say I am happy for your growth.
In your case, I must say, you should try hard and get a job. Having and taking care of children comes with a lot of responsibility of which finances come first.
You must be financially sound so that the child and your home will not lack anything. If you are good at handmade entrepreneurial skills, I would advise you to try your hands on them. Do not be idle.
Sitting idle does not solve a problem. Know that you have a big task in front of you therefore you should face it like a man. Get a job and start saving money towards unforeseen problems too. Wishing you all the best in life.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
