Obaa Yaa
He spends too much time on his phone
I am in a long distance relationship and I am getting worried because my boyfriend spends too much time on his phone. When he visits me, he can’t put his phone down for an hour. Recently, he visited me and I asked him to give me his phone briefly because I don’t understand why he can be so glued to his phone even at ungodly hours.
He gave me his password and I saw naked pictures of ladies on his phone. But he claimed he had not met the ladies before. I have told his mother about his addiction to social media and online engagement with naked ladies.
Now he blames me for telling his mother because his mother has lost trust in him. He says he will stop when we get married. Should I continue dating him?
Ohenewaa, Taifa.
Dear Ohenewaa,
Marriage is a lifelong decision. There are no proven super powers that allow people to change from their bad ways after marriage. Discuss your concerns with him, and possible get him some further counselling. However, if all other options fail and you feel your peace and comfort are threatened, you may exit the relationship.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
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Dad says he won’t pay my fees
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am facing a big problem which is threatening my education and life as well.
I am in my last year in secondary school but my father is threatening to stop paying my school fees for reasons I cannot disclose.
I am appealing through you to any person or organisation to come to my rescue to help me continue with my education.
I am ready for any job, be it a driver or houseboy. I am a worried person. Please help.
Benson, Accra.
Dear Benson,
You are ready to become a houseboy or a driver in someone else’s house and must be ready to do anything for your father to change his mind.
I suggest you go down on your knees and own up for what you have done and ask for his forgiveness.
Bear in mind that times are hard, not only in this country. Most people do not even get regular meals, so if apart from food and clothes, you are lucky to be receiving secondary education, then you have to be grateful to your parents and concentrate on your studies.
If you are still keen on continuing with your education, then go and tell the whole story to an elderly person and ask him to accompany you to your father and apologise.
Obaa Yaa
Pastors take too much money from members
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.
Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?
Etornam,
Volta Region.
Dear Etornam,
It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.
Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.
Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.
But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.
