Obaa Yaa
She has broken my heart
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met this beautiful lady in 2021 at a crusade in Accra. Coincidentally, we stayed at the same place during the crusade as we listened to the word of God, prayed, and danced to gospel tunes from different artistes.
Having stayed at the same place throughout the night, it became obvious when l requested for her contact before we finally parted company at dawn to our respective homes.
I called her in the evening and that opened the floodgates of constant interactions between us. We sustained this lovely relationship until we agreed to get married.
This decision was welcomed by our parents and friends, all of whom wished us the best in our proposed marriage.
Unfortunately, as the time for our marriage drew closer, her attitude toward me changed and she made up her mind not to pick my calls any longer.
Shocked by this sudden change in her behaviour, l momentarily became disturbed and could not eat for days.
My mother who realised there was something wrong, consoled me with these words, “when one door is closed, another is opened.”
This revived my spirit and l tried to forget about this sad incident.
What should l do?
Thomas- Koforidua.
Dear Thomas,
Every misfortune comes with blessings provided one is patient to listen and follow events that happen in life.
God could be delivering you from a serious problem in the future so you should not be disturbed by the sudden change of events.
Take your time to study situations carefully and be of good cheer since there are better days ahead, provided you wait for God’s direction.
Obaa Yaa
What subjects should I choose?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.
With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.
What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.
I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.
A.J, Accra.
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Dear A.J
If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.
That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.
The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.
Obaa Yaa
I’m having second thoughts
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.
But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.
For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.
At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.
Which one do you think is his true character?
It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.
A.B, Sewhi
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Dear A.B
I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.
If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.
If he cares for you, he will do something about it.
But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places
